One is to bring the moon closer, but that can get risky, how close can
it get for example never mind the tides.
The answer to this is the Roche Limit. Closer than this and gravitational forces will rip it apart. The Roche Limit is about 2 1/2 times the radius of the central body. Just to make things easy, figure 3 times the radius of the earth to the center of the moon, or about 12,000 miles. Since the current average distance to the moon is about 240,000 miles, this is 1/20 the current value.
When the moon is directly overhead, the distance will be 2 radii, or 8,000 miles. Since the moon's radius is 0.237 earth, or 938 miles, the apparent size of the moon, in degrees, is $$\theta = 2 tan^{-1}(\frac{948}{2\times 3960}) = 13.7 degrees$$ Comparing this to the current size, about 0.23 degrees, the close moon will be about 60 times bigger (apparent diameter, not area) than is true now.
Something else to consider is that, as the distance to the moon changes, the orbital period changes, too, and the change goes as (Kepler's Third Law)$$T^2 = K\times R^3$$ Reducing the radius by a factor of 20 will reduce the length of a month by a factor of 90. So the moon will orbit the earth about every 7 1/2 hours.
Two is to keep the distance but make it bigger but then how big can I
make it?
That's pretty straightforward: you can make it as big as you like. Of course, if it gets much bigger than the earth, the earth will be the moon. Since the moon doesn't have an iron core it is less dense than earth, so if the makeup and densities are kept the same, the moon will have to get somewhat larger than earth before it becomes more massive, which is what counts in determining which is primary and which is satellite. Since the current diameter ratio of moon to earth is 0.237, the moon can get about 4 times bigger than it is now, and still be the moon. Of course, if it does get that big it will probably have an atmosphere and won't look at all like it does, but rather more like earth.