Rent-a-Body
If this was my world I would play it like this:
(1) There are temporary bodies you can download yourself into whenever interaction is needed with the outside world. These might be androids, vehicles, spaceships, construction or mining equipment. Whenever something is needed to service the central server, these temporary bodies are used.
(2) There is little incentive to raise a child in a purely digital world. You don't get that same attachment to a newborn baby. You might as well simulate that attachment.
(3) Uploaded people live for thousands of years before they succumb to circuit decay, or voluntarily end their own lives. So there is little need to create new people.
(4) If you upload a baby's mind it never properly develops. Or rather it adapts super well and evolves to to "the next paradigm" of human development. This is looked down upon by the current less evolved generation.
So how does childbirth work?
(a) You apply for a childbirth license and register a lease on a bio-android body. Essentially a synthetic skeleton with organs grown in and around it in a vat of chemicals.
(b) You can either select a given genetic code or use the one assigned to you in the central database. Either way you get a sense of attachment to the new child.
(c) Procreate and have a baby.
(c.5) Some people do the procreation artificially, and only wake up the android shortly before or after the child is born.
(d) Raise the child to maturity in the real world.
(e) Upload the young adult into the server.
(e.5) During their upbringing the child can make trips into the central server. This lowers the shock value at age 18 where their biological body is obliterated and they are permanently uploaded. The parents can also switch bodies as appropriate.
Question: How does this change what a "household" is? Of course it removes any need for male-female parenting teams.