I'm sorry that my knowledge of how this would work is a bit limited...but here is a possibility.
You can have your day/night cycles however you'd like...but the planet would have to be almost tidally locked to its moon. The mechanics of this dictate that it would only stay that way for so long before the planet and moon became truly tidally locked to each other...but it'd still be a pretty darn long time.
In short, if a planet's day and lunar month were almost the same (which, given enough time, would happen to any planet/moon system), then you could have a very slow tidal cycle. The catch here, is that the planet's day would be about the same length as the tidal cycle, which leads to a whole host of problems for any inhabitants of the planet.
To have a stable orbit, the distance from the planet, mass of the orbiting bodies, and speed they are moving all must fit together. For a moon to move faster (thus catching up with a planet's rotation speed) and not escape the planet, it must either be more massive, or closer to the surface of the planet. Either of which also increase the strength of the tides, possibly to the point of leaving the planet uninhabitable.
The balance to this is to slow the rotation of the planet, lengthening the day, rather than decreasing the lunar month. This would lead to greater extremes in temperature between day and night (just look at the temperature variance between day and night on Earth).
So, ultimately, you'd need to play a balancing act of a moon that was massive enough and close enough to effect the tides, and then speed it up or slow down planetary rotation to reach an equilibrium where the lunar month was just a little bit longer than a planetary day.
Other than that...the near-synching of the day/lunar month period...there is no way to produce a long-lasting tide cycle.
In order to maintain a near-Earth-like day cycle...here would be a good balance: A Super-Earth to increase the gravity well of the planet, a fairly massive moon, orbiting at high speeds, at fairly close proximity to the planet. Unfortunately, this may cause the tidal effects to mess with the landscape as well as the water. I don't currently have the time to crunch numbers to try to come up with a solid set of results...but that's a base to start on.